内容简介

Emotional Intelligence was an international phenomenon, appearing on the New York Times bestseller list for over a year and selling more than five million copies worldwide. Now, once again, Daniel Goleman has written a groundbreaking synthesis of the latest findings in biology and brain science, revealing that we are “wired to connect” and the surprisingly deep impact of our relationships on every aspect of our lives.

Far more than we are consciously aware, our daily encounters with parents, spouses, bosses, and even strangers shape our brains and affect cells throughout our bodies—down to the level of our genes—for good or ill. In Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman explores an emerging new science with startling implications for our interpersonal world.Its most fundamental discovery: we are designed for sociability, constantly engaged in a “neural ballet” that connects us brain to brain with those around us.

Our reactions to others, and theirs to us, have a far-reaching biological impact, sending out cascades of hormones that regulate everything from our hearts to our immune systems, making good relationships act like vitamins—and bad relationships like poisons. We can “catch” other people’s emotions the way we catch a cold, and the consequences of isolation or relentless social stress can be life-shortening. Goleman explains the surprising accuracy of first impressions, the basis of charisma and emotional power, the complexity of sexual attraction, and how we detect lies. He describes the “dark side” of social intelligence, from narcissism to Machiavellianism and psychopathy. He also reveals our astonishing capacity for “mindsight,” as well as the tragedy of those, like autistic children, whose mindsight is impaired.

Is there a way to raise our children to be happy?What is the basis of a nourishing marriage?How can business leaders and teachers inspire the best in those they lead and teach?How can groups divided by prejudice and hatred come to live together in peace?

The answers to these questions may not be as elusive as we once thought.And Goleman delivers his most heartening news with powerful conviction: we humans have a built-in bias toward empathy, cooperation, and altruism–provided we develop the social intelligence to nurture these capacities in ourselves and others.

From the Trade Paperback edition.

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那些得到很好关爱或者感觉自己得到父母同理心的孩子既不会特别依赖，也不会拒人于千里之外。那些被父母忽视或者感觉自己被忽视的孩子则会尽量避免与人交流，好像已经放弃了对关爱的渴望。而那些自相矛盾、反复无常的父母养育的孩子则通常会忧虑不安，缺乏安全感。

——引自第11页

因为我们的许多思想、情感和行为都是在“一眨眼的工夫”自动产生的。

——引自第114页